Dating a divorced man red flags
Many people, men and women, assume that when someone is divorced they made a lousy spouse. Just because a man is divorced doesn’t mean he’s a bad man.
As a double divorcee, I can tell you that yes, there were times I made a lousy spouse, but there were times I was the perfect wife! My mother always says, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure,” or, more delicately, just because he wasn’t right for one woman, doesn’t mean he isn’t perfect for you!
If he still lives in his house where he used to live with his ex, then you’d have to be prepared. They will judge you and even stack you up against his ex.
Walk through that stage where they will look you up and down, as well as talk about you behind your back. So you have to learn to adjust to a new, and perhaps strange role of being like a stepmom to his kids. However, if your goal in a relationship is just to enjoy the dating part and are not ready to have instant kids, rethink going out with a divorced guy.
On the upside, everything in his life is pretty much figured out—kids, house, finances, and all that. Be prepared to have conversations about his ex, especially if the divorce proceedings are underway. ” He’ll answer stoically with, “I talked to her *the soon-to-be ex-wife*, and she wouldn’t agree to the terms of the divorce.” Then he might go on an angry and bitter tirade of how selfish, awful, or stubborn his ex is.
Be secure enough about yourself to hear about the ex without overanalyzing things or taking it all too personally. While you lend your support for whatever your boyfriend goes through, you don’t have to know every detail of the divorce and even his past relationship.
However, keep in mind that you can’t please everyone. [Read: 9 naughty ways to keep romance alive when you have kids] #12 What about your own future kids with him?
He’s still friends with those who are also friends with his ex.
Maybe he has shortcomings, such as a bad temper or he’s utterly heartless. Has he learned from the mistakes of his past marriage, or is he just reliving it all again?
[Read: 15 strange and unknown facts about divorce you probably don’t know] Though it’s tough, consider what your partner is going through too.
In this day and age where divorce rates are high, it’s still curious why being divorced still catches flack. Consider dating a divorced man if you’re looking for someone eligible.
For most people, divorce implies failure, disaster, tragedy, neglect, nasty custody battles, nastier money issues, and irreconcilable differences. 14 things you should know when dating a divorced man So while dating a divorced man may be new and exciting to you, don’t let him swoop you off your feet just yet. Knowing where the divorce stands, and where he stands in the divorce, tells you just how committed he is in a potential relationship with you, and if you should be serious about the relationship.
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[Read: 9 easy things you can do to get his mom to adore you] #10 You may feel judged by his kids. Having kids of his own already, do you think he’s ready/wants more kids with you? [Read: 50 relationship questions to test your compatibility] #13 He may be traumatized. Perhaps his ex-wife has an addiction or mental disease *well, some guys would say their ex-wives are crazy*, or the whole marriage has been disastrous.