Single mother dating issues
Yes, some friends get priority, and family generally takes the top spot (behind yourself of course), but all of that shifts when you have a kid.Suddenly, their needs almost always come behind yours (OK, sometimes before yours, too) but ahead of everyone else.Basically, instead of "filling a gap," a tremendous amount to something that is already really great.Adjusting from one parent to two requires so many massive shifts and arduous transitional periods — no single mom is rushing to do all that work. I'm sure you're great and all, my dude, but no one is trying to crown you "dad" after like three solid dates.She'll tell you what's up when it comes to her kid and how being a mom intersects with dating.Although, that said, the best assumption to leave at the door is the one about how all moms want to talk about their kids all the time.But when you're a human whose ability to keep a tight schedule is in part dictated by a tiny human who doesn't give half a sh*t about schedules, maybe be slightly more forgiving.
But it is a good idea to ask questions more than you project assumptions.The idea that all single moms are dating with the exclusive goal of finding someone to marry us and alleviate some of the parenting burden and keep our kids from growing up in a Broken Home™ (*insert overly dramatic anguish face here*) is offensive, in addition to being laughably wrong in so many cases.Single moms date for as many different reasons as people without kids, and are as likely or unlikely to be open to a serious relationship as anyone else.Ultimately, all of the items on this list can be checked off if you just stop thinking of us as "single moms" and starting thinking of us as "women with whom you'll do all the things you know you should've been doing with everyone you date anyway." Seriously, which thing on this list isn't just reflective of healthy dating habits?The biggest difference between single moms and any other woman you might date is that the presence of a kid in her life means having strong boundaries is a non-negotiable.