Tips dating army men
Although there are many benefits to being in the military, it comes with many sacrifices and it isn’t for everyone.“The mission has to come first, and sacrifices have to be made.” This is the exact same statement my mom used to tell me whenever she talked about my dad’s military career.Being raised in Fayetteville/ Fort Bragg, I knew what the life meant and I knew I wasn’t the person for it, but I did it anyway.Although the “perks” are good, if you aren’t ready for that life you can really destroy yourself and all those around you in the process.Hey everybody so this is my military wife account I’m kind of just gonna share with you all about how I met Connor here’s a picture of him. Five things you should know before dating a military man.Now I kind of want to say something I don’t want it to be mean but I think I should just say it. To often I’ve seen women, who I know, date military men and it just not be something they want or even mostly men dating women and it not being what they want them getting divorced and the divorce rates are high in the military.
Number five I almost of ten five they get really stressed out really really stressed out and I know a lot of people get stressed out we all get stressed out I get stressed out to the max but Connor gets stressed out and it’s because the military puts a lot of pressure on that pressure like doing things right getting stuff done having our whole country on their shoulders to fight for.It’s for reasons like this I’d never considered dating someone in the military, but then I did.It was one of those typical relationships I knew I shouldn’t have began in the first place solely because of the distance, but when we continued talking after he went back to his duty station it just grew into something.You can’t be with them all the time like a regular husband and wife you just you can’t or even girlfriend and boyfriend because there are times here in college where I see someone holding hands and I’m like wow sucks to be me because I have no one’s hand to hold but I remember that I’m so in love with Connor that a hand hold doesn’t matter because one day I’m gonna see him and it’s gonna be amazing and we’ll get to hold hands you know we’re gonna kiss or whatever um so you have to be ready for that life you have to be okay with long-distance and I was never that kind of person but the love that you have for someone kind of overwhelms that and I’m now okay with it just because I love him so much Number two you can’t always text or talk to them that’s kind of like a obvious kind of thing but you should know that before you’re going into it because as a girlfriend you want to text your BAE all the time like I love you good morning blah blah you know but there are times when I don’t get anything all day I get a good morning I text him good morning and then that’s it until six o’clock at night when he’s like hey heading home like okay cool guess we’re not talking right now cuz you’re driving which is kind of like selfish but like I want to talk to you now cuz I’ve been waiting all day um but there’s some people who you know like in the army where you can’t talk to them ever because they’re fighting for our country literally so that part is one of the hardest things to grasp because you expect when you meet them you know you either meet them in person you chat it up or you meet them online when they are not doing you know their duties or whatever and you cha-cha-cha-cha chat until they have to go back to work back to reality and it’s this whole shift of I can’t talk to you anymore so that’s one of the hardest things about being in the military for them and us it’s not we don’t get to have that constant connection or it’s a one day Skype and that’s it and so that’s that’s one of the hardest things number three this is kind of like the previous one and it’s you feel lonely all the time that’s very hard for people who live alone or you know their their wife and they live alone or the generation that we’re living in.Because the generation that we’re living in we are all very lonely we all say that we have tons of friends and we connected so many people and we have like 500 people on Facebook and Twitter and even snapchat you know you have a picture of yourself you show people you know you think you have this a great community and what do you think about who should I call to hang out it’s like no one unless you have like a group of friends obviously um but they’re not going to be there for you all the time either and so in this generation we’ve become lonely we’ve become people who just lay down and watch Netflix and that’s okay with us because we’re feeling lonely or we just you know whatever and so the fact that we have a person who is supposed to be with us who’s supposed to cuddle with us who’s supposed to love us and not be there that’s like extreme loneliness right there but we have to work through it and as a Christian I don’t feel lonely because I have the Lord and so I’ve had to work through that constantly because I’m like the Lord is with me he is who I can turn to so I don’t have to be lonely um but I also you know still watch Netflix and all the other stuff so it helps that helps but having security and who you are is one of the biggest things you will need if you ever date marry a military man.